Monthly Archives: May 2013

Live Your Life

By Deanna

Do good. Be good. Respect yourself. Respect others. Love yourself. Love others. Give back, a lot. Be happy. Live life. Don’t wait for tomorrow. Be kind. Today is the day. Love yourself. Don’t judge, or try not to judge, you are not walking in that persons shoes. Be real. Be you because trying to be someone is a lot harder. Be kind. Be caring. Have compassion. Love yourself. Don’t hold a grudge it makes you ugly. Always consider the source. Be kind. Be considerate. Get inspired. Do one thing every day that makes you happy. Have fun. Be silly. Hug someone. Love yourself. Don’t wait for tomorrow. Step out of your comfort zone – just once. Be kind. Inspire someone, anyone, even the dog. Do one thing for someone else than do one thing for yourself. Eat breakfast in bed. Don’t worry about the crumbs. Dance in a mirror or not,  just dance. Laugh, a lot. Share your life with family and friends. Go for a run, walk, do yoga, do something to release the stress. Live your life. Love your life. Live your life for yourself, for your family, spend time with the people that matter. Love yourself. Be kind. Love others. Respect yourself. Respect others. Do good. Be good.
And watch this video, it’s worth every minute of the 22 minutes. 


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I Survived…The Dr. Oz Detox!

Photo from Dr. Oz
In my efforts to shed the last 20 pounds (for over a year now, down 10 since January 2013!) I have changed my focus of straight up running to working in a strength program a few days a week.  I’m not training for another race for a month or two so my thought process was that I might as well get tone, build some muscle so I can finish my races stronger. If I make strength training a happy now I won’t abandon it completely when I start training for another race.  Also, building muscle is more effective for weight loss as muscle burns more fat than just doing a cardio routine.  I read that after a strength workout your body is still burning calories up to 12 hours after said workout wherein with cardio you are just burning calories for the duration of that cardio workout –i.e: run for an hour, you are only burning calories during that hour of running.  Logically it makes sense to do strength training for a variety of reasons.
Nevertheless, along with building more muscle, trying to get all buff for the summer last week I decided to take on Dr. Oz’s three day cleanse. My thought process was this: I could flush out some toxins, cleanse the ‘ole colon and if I shed a few pounds more power to me!  When I told my husband that I was going to do this he quickly jumped on the band-wagon it was a pleasant surprise which made me even more motivated to partake in the cleanse.
The three day cleanse in theory seemed easy, three shake a day, a few multi-vitamins, and a nice soothing bath. How hard is it to make a shake and take a bath? Well, it’s not hard at all, but it is time-consuming.  It takes time to cut veggies, it takes time to make a shake, and it takes time to take a damn bath.
Day one of the cleanse was the hardest I was completely lost without having a meal and the process of actually chewing food.  I was fully aware that I was drinking my meals which to me was odd, I felt hungry but I do think that was really mind over stomach, I constantly had to remind myself that I was not eating food.
The morning shake was by far the best tasting; the lunch shake was well a helluva a lot: an entire cucumber, four stalks of celery? Really?! And that was only two of the ingredients! The lunch shake was also really chunky, I am not sure if it was the ingredients, my blender or if I didn’t chop the veggies small enough, this one was the absolute worst of the three. The dinner shake was tasty but the cayenne pepper made it a little weird I do understand the theory behind the cayenne pepper (as spicy foods speed up the metabolism etc). After the first day of shakes I was completely deflated, didn’t really want to continue. My husband completely dropped out, I am not sure if it was the lunch shake that did him in or the fact that he just needed food.
Day two was a little easier; the feelings of having to eat something subsided well, because I did have some food! I ate some low-sodium turkey breast. I needed something because I was working out, I ran/walked for over an hour, and strength trained for 45 minutes, my body needed a little more than just fruit and veggies. For the lunch shake I halved the recipe and it was so much better in terms of chunkiness and drinkability.  I will say that by the time dinner rolled around I was not looking for food; I wasn’t really looking for anything, I think I was really full from both the shakes and my appetite for food decreased.
Day three was just as easy as two, but is also the day I got lazy and was really over drinking my meals. I made the breakfast shake, skipped the lunch shake because I just couldn’t think of making and drinking that again. I did make and drink the dinner shake but also had a full salad as well.  Not a total bust but not on the plan either.
While doing this cleanse I learned a few things:
1) I now appreciate food even more; not only for the nutrients but that I have it in abundance and should not abuse it.
2) Mind over matter – once I told myself that I really didn’t need food (as in eating not drinking my food) I was really okay, time to start strengthening my brain as well as my muscles!
3) Support is key – in every aspect of life, for any goal you want to obtain. For me, if I didn’t have the support of my friend Christy (she made me laugh a lot!)  I would have thrown in the towel on day one, no doubt!
4) Options – I like having options!

5) I still hate coconut water but can definitely make almond milk a part of my life.
 All in all, I would not do this again, not because the shakes weren’t tasty because I really didn’t like the process of it all. It just wasn’t for me. In my regular routine I usually have (2-3 days a week) a shake for breakfast this cleanse helped me realize that I can try different flavors and maybe even a few for lunch. As for my weight loss, releasing the toxins, feeling cleansed, well I lost 1.3 pounds (not bad),  I didn’t feel much different from the day I started, I don’t know if I released any toxins, and as for feeling cleansed well, the verdict is out on that one too!

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The Parenting Gang Sign

The other day I went to minor league baseball game with my family to see my nephew play the National Anthem with his school band.  My entire side of the family attended the game (5 sisters, three brother-in-laws, 7 cousins, 1 father-in-law, 5 friends) because seriously we’re not sure if there will be another time we will get to see our  nephew on a minor league baseball field playing the trombone – yea exactly.


The stadium is small, clean, not too overwhelming and certainly child friendly – the typical stadium layout of the minor league teams that play across the United States. We arrived early so the kids could explore the stadium, the park has a Bouncy House and a Pitching Station that the kids can use, these explorations one would think would be “free” but to my dismay, they were not. Sigh.


Nonetheless, as we were exploring the stadium I witnessed half a dozen meltdowns from children ranging from one to ten years old.  No kidding. This was before the game even started. Lucky for me, it was my night; my kids were more amused with the stadium, their cousins, the band and were actually well behaved. I would pat myself on the back but that’s pointless cause they will misbehave and there is no need to applaud myself when in two days I will be burying my head in my hands.


The tantrums I witnessed were some of the typical stuff that us parents struggle with – the defiance about using the potty, the stomping of the feet because the kid can’t have ice-cream, or a tee-shirt, or an autographed baseball, or because Sammy got a “quacker” and he didn’t. With each tantrum I passed, I tried my hardest to give the parents the mom and dad gang sign: the head nod, the touch of the hand to the chest, the look that says “been there, done that, I get it, I get IT, I SO GET IT, and you will get out of this alive, I promise” all the while I am thinking “whew, so glad it ain’t me tonight!” I am not sure if these folks picked up on my show of empathy, support, of trying to telepathically tell them that I reallyreally understand that our children can be down-right annoying sometimes but I sure did try.


After watching a few innings of what we all deemed the longest baseball game in our lives I took a solo stroll around the stadium to stretch my legs, okay who am I kidding, I was out to get a most delicious vodka and lemonade, I know, impressive at a baseball stadium! As I made my way back from that delish vodka stand I noticed a tantrum of epic proportions, this mama had a grip on her raven haired beauty something fierce, and this little girl was not having it.  This little gal was trying her hardest to break free from her mom, the look on her face was that of sheer determination, she was the most focused three year old I’ve ever seen but she was not going anywhere – the moms grip on that child was so tight, and that moms arm, her poor arm was twisted in such a way that even the performers from Cirque du Soleil would say “Wow, that move is impressive!”  I tried not to look but this tantrum was nothing I have ever witnessed. The mom, that poor mom I  wanted to run and hug her because written all over her face you can tell she was trying not to scream, trying not to cry, trying not to be broken down limb-by-limb… in public.


And it was at that precise moment that I stopped in my tracks and wished upon a star that every single parent in this world had a handy dandy stop button, a shiny red button that they could pull out from their pockets, slam it down, stop time and the entire world and those around them would freeze – yes exactly like a movie or cartoon (I know, I know, I have an active imagination). The button, my magic button that I want to bestow on every parent, could not be abused (and if abused would be taken away), and can only be used in extreme circumstances (insert tantrum above) but when used it would stop the tantrum and let the parent get their shit together in a peaceful private moment. 


As I arrived back at my seat, delicious vodka and lemonade in my hand, I placed that sparkling goodness on the floor next to me; I was grinning to myself about my brilliant idea as I felt a cold rush of ice on my toes, looking down I saw a perfectly sliced lemon on my shoe, my beautiful drink was accidently kicked over by my child…and this my friends is an extreme circumstance! Where the hell is that damn button when I need it?!

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